Another again

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Ok so here's the deal though...YOU CANNOT SAVE PEOPLE...FROM THEMSELVES. Not even if the attempt to relieve someone of suffering is coming from the healthiest part of your medulla oblongata. Ok, perhaps "suffering" is a bit of an over statement, but I'm pretty sure if someone kept experiencing blows from the exact same disappointment, at some point, it would result in horrendous suffering...would it not? But enough with the technicalities...here's my point... The thing about being protective is that you somehow always end up being so objective that it starts to seem, somewhat, debatably subjective. Though I'd like to believe that I am more than capable of managing the two and remaining true to whichever one is called onto the advisory forum, the truth is, that I honestly do not think it is ever possible to remain entirely firm on either one...when the subject in question is a loved one. Anytime anyone you hold dear to your heart asks for "advice", I think you have to be extremely talented to stay completely objective, without trying to manipulate you recommendation to work for a result that stands in favour of the dear in question. Now a word on advice... there is no law that states that you absolutely have to do everything that I SUGGEST you do (actually in my book I've seen that law a million times, but it has come to my attention in recent years that we are not all reading the same book, LOL, I kid *actually I don't but whatever*) anyway...when I give this advice, how I expect you to receive it is this... I'm telling you what I THINK I would do if I ever found myself in that situation. I am not telling you what YOU definitely SHOULD do now that you're actually in this situation. What you're supposed to do is pit this against what you think should be done, just in case I have something to say that you may not necessarily have thought of, and you think it's worth considering. What you ultimately decide, should be what works FOR YOU!  Here's where the problem comes in... WHEN YOU TAKE TOO LONG TO TAP INTO YOUR SUPERPOWERS AND REALISE HOW ABSOLUTELY AMAZING YOU ARE...HOW ABSOLUTELY AMAZING YOU COULD BE!!!!!! This is where I forget that it is not my place to teach you this, I can only assist, but it is your duty 9to yourself) to learn this lesson. Sometimes to let someone "crash" is the best way to love them...sometimes to let someone's heart rip apart is the best way to tell them that they are strong (because they will have to learn that from rebuilding this precious vessel), sometimes (and only sometimes, LOL) you have to let someone learn these lessons the hard way. There will come times where your attempts to shield a person from disappointment, will simultaneously be attempts to shield them from their lessons. And then we get shocked why they keep ending up at the EXACT same place, not realising that it is because we robbed them of their lesson, and they really need this lesson so they can contribute to their "bigger picture", therefore, heaven won't let them move forward until they have picked up all the tools they need for the next step. DARN IT!!! How easy it is to smother someone that it happens without you even realising that you are doing it... smothering is a ninja! But we are modest, so we are not going to take ALL the credit for growth hindered. YOU HAVE TO LET PEOPLE LEARN! YOU HAVE TO STEP ASIDE (SOMETIMES) AND LET THEM GO THROUGH THEIR FIRES! YOU HAVE TO LOVE THEM ENOUGH TO LET THEM GROW! Somewhere in all of this, preciouses and dears and loves and sweetheart are to be responsible for their own situations. And if, on their part they are not ready to move in their own favour, you cannot protect them from their habits, you cannot shield them from their toxic thoughts, and you cannot save them from themselves. I love the people that the good Lord has blessed my world with, I appreciate their existence and I include them in my prayers.... and it is with the purest and most sincere love in my heart, that I am to allow them their growth, their strength and their liberty and independence. I had announced the president (me) would be resigning...and this is a further indication that I truly am stepping down (such a long exit, whoooo! Shem). I just had to specify, that IT IS WITH LOVE that I am giving up this position. *Madiba voice* I THANK YOU.