Dear future husband

I have often said that I would like to end up with "someone who will love me for me"... And I swore by it. But I recently read something along the lines of "God doesn't love us because of who we are. God loves us because of who He is".

Whether or not we understand it, receive it, acknowledge it or agree with it. His love remains unchanged. His love stays moving, whether or not we choose to be a part of this journey. We remain His creation, therefore we remain His own, even when we are not functioning at our best. His love is not dependent on our co-operation. It is in our best interest to co-operate, but His love is not waiting for us to co-operate in order for it to breathe. This love is too powerful to depend on "understanding". We have no idea!!

I choose to believe that because God created us (specifically and perfectly), we are all his signature thumb prints. Therefore, He exists in all of us. Therefore, it is an insult to let this thumb print to it's love be ordered by anything or anyone that does not remain constant.

So I've changed my mind about what I had wanted before, which is ok because that's what's supposed to happen when you find a better plan,lol. Besides, it was too boxed an idea. I would now like for you to love me as God loves me thank you very much.

Love me not because of who I am, but because of who YOU are.

Here's why...

If you are to get this right...sincerely... You will have to first arrive at a point where you have defined who you are. You will have to have a sophisticated knowledge of self and a conscious love for yourself. This act will require of you to be so in touch with yourself that you cannot be shaken by anyone but God. Leave (plenty of) room for growth and change, yes, but no space for the winds of life to sway you too and fro. Don't stand still, infact, please keep moving, but dear goodness please do not move aimlessly. Do you know what I mean?

Love me on a level that has nothing to do with me. On a level that is not dependent on me. Love me on a level more than me, You know?

I do not want you to base your love for me on who and what I am, because I am not going to be that person forever, if I am, it would be a sure sign that I would not be learning anything. If I am to become better, I am going to need to be able to allow the fires of my journey to mould me and refine me into the art piece I was created to be. Who I am, in fact, who WE are, in and at any given moment, is reserved and limited only to the co-ordinates of that specific space (in less complicated words, do not love me for my bikini, we are not going to be poolside everyday, I hope this makes sense, lol).

Connect with yourself to such an extent, that you feel your existence in everyone you'll meet. That people are but mirrors of parts of ourselves that we may, or may not yet, have confronted.

If you see me as a mirror, I am a reflection of you, therefore you will recognise yourself in me. I want you to see me as an extention of yourself so that you will treat me with the same love, respect, kindness and care that you would yourself...which is why you will be required to have a beautiful relationship with yourself. You cannot love me fully and powerfully, if you have not learnt to love you...fully and powerfully.

Because who I am is not going to be a given constant, I am going to need you to love me more than the boundaries of the moment at present. If you have defined yourself, learned to love yourself, and claimed your journey, and have recognised me as you reflection...I AM YOU and YOU ARE ME. Love me because I AM YOU, YOU who have decided that in your entirety deserves and wants a strong, sincere and genuine exchange of love.
We will be each others mirrors. Our energies will reflect back to each other, through each other.

Do unto me as you would be done to you... This is why I need you to be connected to yourself in love :)

You will not be required to make me the centre of your universe... That's so shallow. It would be far more introcate a connection if our universes flowed freely and naturally in and out through the seams of the quilt that is time. I find it quite daunting the idea of one person putting their entire world on hold to focus on the world of another. This is not why we were created.

We have our own purposes to fulfill. It would be a crime to the divine order if we abandoned these purposes for any one mortal. Let our paths flow into each other that both our paths are merged in order for each purpose to be completed in one journey.


In light of this, you are allowed to feel a little cocky when you call me sexy, lol (haaaaaayyyyy!!!).

Bottom line. I do not want our love to at any given point be defined or confined to that specific moment. It should not be determined by circumstance, but by the spiritual connection that settles in when I am you, and you are me.

The love I am capable of giving you cannot be determined by you and is not going to be dependant on you. You will feel it. You will realise it. You will live in it, but understand, you do not have to pay for it. It is mine. And you are receiving it because you are an extension of me.

I don't want you to love me with all of your heart. That's so limited *rolls eyes*. Lol. Love me with your soul, where there are no boundaries, no labels, no confines of any kind...just pure , wholesome love.
That is all you really owe to the universe, is to fulfill the divine order of "Love one another".

That is the only thing you HAVE to do. When you get this right, everything that was intended to accompany this sentiment will naturally fall into its place. Operative word NATURALLY.

Can we please not put unnecessary pressure on this love. Let's just let this love flow. It will go where it needs to go, it knows what to do, it's been ordered by the heavens. It knows its instruction, and that instruction is not limited to the perception of any human. Love is bigger than us. It would make no sense to try to control and navigate an emotion this powerful.

LOVE ME EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T LIKE ME.

We are not establishing a "patnership" that's so silly. We are Merging! That's where the force is at. Lol

Remember again, one last time...

I am to be an extension of you as you will an extension of me. We will flow into each other, naturally and freely. We will connect at a level stronger than the physical, more than the moment, and deeper than anything we've ever know. We will connect in a whole other realm. We will connect divinely. Our love will have nothing to do with the institutions of this world. It is your energy that I'm interested in experiencing. I'm big on feelings like that, lol.
We will love each other in ways that inspire each other to keep loving stronger and better, but without any pressure, purely free.
If you can see yourself as God see's you and you recognise me as yourself (and I in turn do the same) we will be living a love that surpasses all understanding.

We'll figure the rest out as we go.

Signed Sincerely

Your missing rib, Theri.